"Psychology says people who reach their 60s without close friends aren't socially broken — they spent so many years being the person everyone leaned on that they never learned how to ask for support, and by the time they needed it, performing independence had become the only role anyone would let them play" – VegOut https://share.google/EaguSbCXiTiirg6kk
"I won't pretend this is a simple fix. Rewriting a forty-year script in your sixties is slow, awkward work, and it carries a cost. Some relationships won't survive the shift — people who signed up for the competent version of you may not want the uncertain one, and that's a loss worth naming. Others will adjust more slowly than you'd like. A few, if you're fortunate, will meet you where you are. .."
